Passionate Love ?! What say Ye ?!?

Question

What do you think of the following ? Any comments or experience you would like to share ? (no revealing sins plz, just basic things if you will)

Soem extracts from :::
The Disease of Desires and Passionate Love
By Shaykh ul-Islaam ibn Taymiyyah (rahimahullaah)

"Passionate love is a psychological sickness, and when its effects become noticeable on the body, it becomes a sickness that afflicts the mind also. Either by afflicting the mind by the likes of melancholy, or afflicting the body through weakness and emaciation. But the purpose here is to discuss its affect on the heart, for passionate love is the fundament that makes the soul covet that which would harm it, similar is the one weak of body who covets that which harms it, and if he is not satiated by that then he is grieved, and if he is satiated then his sickness increases. The same applies to the heart afflicted with this love, for it is harmed by its connection to the loved, either by seeing, touching, hearing, even think about it. And if he were to curb the love then the heart is hurt and grieved by this, and if he given is to the desire then the sickness becomes stronger and becomes a means through which the grievance is increased."

"This passionate love is forbidden with regards to one who is permissible for him, so how would it be with regards for one who has passionate love for someone who is unlawful or with regards to two men? For this contains a corruption the extent of which none can assess except the Lord of the servants; it is a sickness that corrupts the religion and objectives of the one who possesses it, then it corrupts his intelligence and then his body. Allaah, the Most High, says,

Then do not be soft in speech, lest in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner.Soorah al-Ahzaab (33):32."

"So when the heart loves Allaah Alone, making the religion sincerely for Him, it will not be tried with this passionate love (directed to him) his love of Allaah Alone, making the religion sincerely for him, did not allow him to be overcome by this, rather Allaah said,

Thus it was, that We might turn away from him evil and illegal sexual intercourse. Surely he was one of Our chosen, guided slaves.Soorah Yoosuf (12):24.


As for the wife of al-‘Azeez, it was because she was and her nation were polytheists that she was afflicted with passionate love. No one, and no one is afflicted with passionate love except that this diminishes his singling out Allaah Alone for worship and his faith. The heart that repents to Allaah, fearing Him, has two routes by which it can remove this passionate love:

1) Repenting to Allaah and loving Him, for indeed this is more satisfying and purer than anything else, and nothing will be left to love along side Allaah.

2) Fearing Allaah, for indeed fear is the opposite of passionate love and removes it.

So everyone who loves something, with passion or otherwise, then this love can be removed by loving that which is more beloved to compete with it. This love can also be removed by fearing the occurrence of a harm that is more hateful to one than leaving this love. So when Allaah is more beloved to the servant than anything else, and more feared by him than anything else, then he will not fall into passionate love or find any love that would compete with his love of Allaah, except in the case of negligence or at a time when this love and fear has become weak by his leaving some of the obligatory duties and by performing some of the prohibited actions. For indeed faith increases with obedience and decreases with disobedience, so each time a servant obeys Allaah out of love and fear, and leaves a prohibited action out of love and fear, his love and fear becomes stronger, and any love or fear of anything else besides Allaah will disappear from his heart."

For whole article, http://www.sunnahonline.com/ilm/purification/0028.htm
Also, please purchase the book, as its trully beneficial, may Allaah have mercy on the author, Ibn Taymiyyah, The Stranger and Reviver of the Deen, and Allaah knows best.

Answer 1

salaam.

thank you for the lecture - really it actually got to me.



i think that passion should only be something shared between one and his wife. unfortunately some people transgress the limits of Islam and communicate with the opposite gender in private, whether it be in person or even online.

and an excess of sweet talking and caring for one another, will build up strange feelings for one another, which the other may misconstrue...



so yes your right, Allah says:



Then do not be soft in speech, lest in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner.Soorah al-Ahzaab (33):32."



this is to be taken into consideration that women are weak to soft words. and they WILL show if they affected by those words, and the man should take into consideration of marriage, or explain to the woman that this was not his intention.



jazaak Allah

and Assalaamu Aleikum

Answer 2

33:32 O ye wives of the Prophet! Ye are not like any other women. If ye keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft of speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease aspire (to you), but utter customary speech.



12:24 She verily desired him, and he would have desired her if it had not been that he saw the argument of his Lord. Thus it was, that We might ward off from him evil and lewdness. Lo! he was of Our chosen slaves.





What in the world are you talking about? Allah clearly places love and mercy between spouse.





30:21 And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.

Answer 3

i'm fairly specific you advise S&M... no longer all (in all danger no longer many) females are into S&M in any respect, so be sure you're "experimenting" with somebody who ought to be experimented with. (In different words, ASK them first!) And in the event that they instruct some interest in it besides, then do no longer be afraid to ask them what styles of kinky issues they're into - some females will ask your self you! have exciting! :)

Answer 4

wow, surely this is not what islam promotes.. not to love someone or feel real passion for someone else.... i really hope not. that would be so so so sad.



human beings are capable of so many types of love... love for a partner, a child and sibling a friend and also for your god..... loving something doesnt diminish your ability to love something else, in fact the more you love the more love comes into your life.



passionate love is not a sickness... as long as you make sure that your brain has acknowledged that it is positive for both parties..... that no party has a power motive. it is a wonderful thing to have a passionate love for your partner and in many cases these can last a lifetime..... it doesnt mean you dont love your god, it means you are capable of opening your heart to care for someone as much or even more than you care for yourself.....



if a human lives their entire life not loving or caring for another human being in a passionate way then how do they know how to love their god or to know how to love anything at all......



i pray for muslims to love their children passionately at the very least..... i am a child psychologist and children who grow up without their parents loving them like this end up with many psychological problems, often violent, or suffer from depression and make very bad choices later in life.



dont you see, any religion practiced properly should all be about love... love for your god, love for you partner, friends, family, children, neighbours and even for your enemies.... the world doesnt need anyone to love less it needs us all to love more!!!