Does a wife need to submit to her Muslim husband?

Question

I like a Muslim Arab guy, he's wonderful, but I'm just curious as to whether, if we get married, I will have to obey him, do everything he says, basically be submissive, according to Islam or Arabic tradition.

I'm not Muslim. This is kind of important to me, because I don't ever want to feel like I have to submit to a man, at least a man my age. If it is obligatory for a wife to be entirely submissive, I'm guessing we'll be going our separate ways.

I don't mean to be racist in anyway, it's just a simple question.

Answer 1

Yes, of COURSE you would have to obey him, do everything he says, and be submissive - it's an ingrained part of their culture. Please do yourself a favor and let this guy go.

Answer 2

It depends on where he's coming from, his country, his subculture.

Some consider their wives as slaves who should obey their every order (which is not Islamic by the way), some others are not so different from their western counterparts.



But my opinion is I think muslim men ought to marry muslim women, because usually in this day and age there is a clash of faiths that usually (I've seen it A LOT) cause kids to have an identity crisis and become really confused. So I suggest you try to read more about Islam maybe you'll like it, and think about your to be kids before taking any decision.

Answer 3

You could be like my niece who lives with a Muslim man. She dresses how she likes and does what she likes except when seeing his family, who don't accept her anyway. This is the kind of thing you would need to talk about before making any commitment. It's all negotiable if you live in a free country.

Answer 4

Muslim woman is just equal to man in the family. She is expected to be Humble and Sincere to her husband to maintain the lifetime family affairs smoothly. However husban is the leader of house hence woman should be cooperative and accept the final decisions of her husband. Submission is not a requirement in Islam.

It is found in Christianity:

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of the church ; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.” Ephesians 5:22-25

Answer 5

She already agree in her contract by words during Nikah ceremony

If she said then the Nikah can not be performed.>

Wife submit to her husband is actually being essence of all marriage contract in the world.

This Nikah Ceremony is actually being distinguished from human being and lowly animals.

Answer 6

Are you a christian or jew? Those women have to submit because christianity says you hve to submit to husbands.



A muslim man can only marry a christian muslim or jew woman.

Answer 7

Yes Totally the Sharia 64.5 tells your husband how when and why he can beat you and one is not being ready for sex when he wants it and the Other is Not doing as he tells you Like dinner at 1800 not 1805 that could cost you a beating

Answer 8

It is reported that best example (SAW) was asked "which of the Muslims is greatest in faith?" and the answer given was "those who are kindest to their wives." this seems pretty clear but it really depends on the individual.



From personal experience, these relationships tend to be a bit 'fragile'.



Ignore the trolls it is your decision but what I can say for certain though is that it is obligatory for a Muslim man to provide for his wife in an appropriate manner and I assume off my own back that that includes ALL aspects of the marriage, not just financially.



The best example (SAW) was, in reality, a kind and gentle man but bound by Law and duty and purpose beyond human understanding (including me obviously). You will have to research for yourself but there are plenty of relationships which do survive but the husbands are kind, gentle and loving men period. If he is a priceless jewel and a Muslim then Insha' Allah it may work! If you say this to him and he beams from ear to ear you may be on to something! ( Insha' Allah meaning God willing and said almost as one word ) .



I am assuming rightly or wrongly that you do not totally reject Islam. If you can take on anything at all, in terms of faith, even one atom this will be to your benefit. All the best.



In his final speech (SAW) was reported to have said :_



"O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have right over you. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers."

https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Muhammad

Answer 9

A Muslim husband is not a good spiritual leader. The Quran cannot be validated by objective science as truth. So...

Answer 10

Salam.Yes a wife in Islam should serve her husband and obey to his command if it is in line with the Qur'an and hadiths If the husband instructed certain act not n line with the Qur'an such as put off hijab,she can reject his instruction because wearing hijab is mandatory.

Answer 11

XYes. She should submit to her husband. If she doesn't do as he wishes we may beat our wives gently. She must also serve her husband sexual needs whenever he asks for her to. If she says no, she'll be cursed.

Answer 12

My Dear,

Asslamualeiku,



You are welcome to islam first. with that you will know what is to be a wife in islam and wife in general. What I mean is this: Submisive is not unles it is in accordance with Allah s LAW.



Woman in Islam.

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Answer 13

Advice: Go separate ways. Moslem men promise the blue from the sky until they are married to the retarded woman. Then they quote their obsecene Koran regarding obedience, submission and slavery by their woman.



I am a mufti

Answer 14

The way Islam is set up, the Caliph obeys Allah (hopefully), the men obey the Caliph, and the women obey the men. That in a nuthshell is Islamic Poly Sci.

Answer 15

Obedience and submission are important in a Muslim marriage to the point it is allowed to a Muslim husband to punish the wife with confinement and beating to make her obedient and submissive to her husband. Wife has to be obedient and submissive in sex and reproduction as well as socializing, outing and attire.

Answer 16

Yes and you will be expected to change to Islam religeon and could be one of 6 wifes that he is allowed to have. Good Luck

Answer 17

Almost certainly, yes. Walk away from this NOW! You have been warned.

Answer 18

The entire Islamic faith is a detriment against women. Don't walk away, run as fast as you can!!

Answer 19

Its not mandatory. One should be submissive to ALLAH and obeying him will ultimately lead to your husband.

Answer 20

The rights of wives and husbands are completely described in the Glorious Quran. When studying them one can recognize these mutual rights as being one of the miracles of the pure culture of Islam. No other school of thought has so thoroughly attended to the rights of wives and their husbands until now, and none can do so from now until the end of time. These rights include obligatory and recommended rights. Disrespecting the obligatory rights without the other person's consent is the cause of divine punishment, and not honoring the recommended rights will lessen the sweetness of life. A major portion of these mutual rights are described in Vasa'il al-Shiaa, volumes 20-22, printed by Al-i-Bayt Press. As much as is required, I shall quote traditions from this volume, and instruct my dear readers to carefully read over those volumes.

Firstly, to bless the discussion I shall mention a few Quranic verses related to the matter and then I shall quote the traditions.

I will mislead them, and I will create in them false desires; I will order them to slit the ears of cattle, and to deface the (fair) nature created by God. Whoever, forsaking God, takes Satan for a friend, has of a surety suffered a loss that is manifest. [Holy Quran Nisaa 4:119]

And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable: [Holy Quran: Baqara: 2:228]

And yet they had already covenanted with God not to turn their backs, and a covenant with God must (surely) be answered for. [Holy Quran: Ahzab 33:15]

Isaq, the son of Ammac, said that he had asked Imam Sadiq what right does a woman have whose fulfillment by her husband implies that he is a good doer. The Imam replied that he should feed her properly and provide her with clothing. And when she does something out of ignorance, he should forgive her. Then the Imam said my father had a bothersome wife but he would always forgive her. The sixth Imam quoted the Prophet (S.A.W.) as saying: Gabriel recommended on behalf of wives so much so that I thought divorcing her is not permissible unless she commits adultery. He also said good mercy be upon the man who performs all the affairs for himself and his wife well, since God the Almighty has granted to men the control of women, and established the husband as her guardian. The Prophet (S.A.W.) said: One who ignores his wife's rights is deprived of God’s Mercy. He also said: The best of you is one who is the best for his family and I am a model for you in this regard. He also said: A man's wife is his slave and the person most loved by God the Almighty is the one who treats his slaves kindly.



The Rights of the Wife:



1- Providing the means for living.

The Prophet (S.A.W.) said one must provide the foodstuffs and clothing of his wife in the best manner. Imam Sajjad said: Going to the market and buying one Durham of meat which my wife desires is better than freeing a slave. The sixth Imam said: The most fortunate man is the one who manages the affairs of his wife and children.



2- Sexual intercourse.

The eight Imam was asked about a man who had a young wife whom he had not slept with for nearly a year due to a disaster that had come upon him. He had no intentions to bother his wife but the disaster caused him to do so. Was he sinning? The Imam answered: Of course. After four months passed, he was sinning. Abuzar asked the Prophet: Is a man's love-making to his wife divinely rewarded even though it brings pleasure? The Prophet (S.A.W.) answered: Yes, of course. Is it not forbidden to satisfy your sexual desires unlawfully? Abuzar answered yes. Then the Prophet (S.A.W.) said: Certainly its lawful form is divinely rewarded. It is considered desirable in divine teachings for a man to sleep with his wife for love-making once every four nights.



3-Improving the Living Conditions

The Prophet (S.A.W.) said: When a man goes to shop for his wife, he is similar to one who takes charity to the house of the needy. When he gets home, he should first give what he has bought to his daughters. This is so because one who makes his daughter happy is similar to one who frees a slave from Ismael's generation. And one who makes his son happy by giving him something is similar to one who cries for fear of God given that God shall take such a person into Heaven filled with blessings.

Imam Musa said: Men's wives are their slaves. When God gives blessings to anyone he should use it to improve the living conditions of his slave or else that blessing might be taken away from him. The Prophet (S.A.W.) has admonished against a man being full while his wife is hungry. The sixth Imam said: A man should try to do the following things even if it is against his own desires.

(1) Treating the family well

(2) Trying to improve his living conditions without being wasteful

(3) Being concerned about protecting the family's honor.

The fourth Imam said: God is more pleased with the one who brings about more improvement in his family's living conditions. The Prophet (S.A.W.) said: Whatever a Muslim man buys for his wife has a reward similar to that of charity...http://www.imamreza.net/eng/imamreza.php?id=6186