What does a Muslim woman look for in a man?

Question

I'm interested in seeing what Muslim women look for in a man who could be their future husband. Just a question that popped in my head. Also how do single Muslims go on dates?

Answer 1

@ [no name] I am white too but also a Muslim,



I travel a lot , usually for 3 months a year in S.E.Asia and I have come across women that would be happy for for somebody to take them away from what they have .[not only Muslims btw]. Some would be happy to know they would not be hungry or not be beaten.



A friend of my friends in Indonesia had been married a couple of years and was happy that her husband didn't hit her too often, the fact that she had her own motorcycle compensated for it.



Different women want different things and some are not too bothered about piety whereas with some it is of paramount importance [rightly so].

I know of women from one certain country that have a reputation for wanting massive dowries and wealthy husbands that must be of the same race as they are.



Additional Q.

My family would arrange with other families [that had girls for marriage] that they would visit and family would meet as would the "potential spouses", enough general conversation to discover if their was any compatibility.

If there was then further meetings take place and sometimes the "kids" would get an opportunity to talk alone but it seemed never out of the view of parents.





I remember accompanying my mother to social events and her pointing out girls asking if I liked the look of her and wanted to "meet" them.

Families have most of the influence on choice of marriage partners, I was told that I could marry anybody I wanted , that was until I found somebody but my mother said her family were "not acceptable".



I agreed to have an arranged marriage and everything was over from 1st meeting to wedding in 4 weeks. My wife had less choice than me because she had rejected 3 men before and her parents were desperate "to marry her off", on paper we are 100% compatible.



Marriage the same as everything, the more effort you put into it the better the results , we have only been married 8 months and are still learning.



ADDED,, I purchased a [cheap] Pre paid Mobile phone [cell phone for Americans] and had my sister sneak it to my potential bride so we could communicate a little , strangely we were at first trying to find ways to stall things because neither of us really wanted to marry. We only actually met 3 times before our wedding.

But neither of us can complain because we were both asked and had an opportunity to say no.





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Answer 2

If they are practicing they look for a practicing Muslim man. Obviously they can speak with each other etc and see each other but no excessive and never alone so that they know they are compatable for each other - attraction, character, personality etc.



It's not necessary to live together for 10 years to get to know the person and then seperate ..as in western culture - decide on marriage after seeing the person and finding out about the person and then get to know the perosn - we accept the person first



At the time people used to marry without even seeing the person perhaps still to this day but the prophet ordered a man to see the person before you marry them!



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O__pwDIehig&feature=related - engagment in Islam?



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vnteJmAWuA&feature=related - Relationship between girl and boy in Islam (3 mins)

Answer 3

A religious Muslim woman would look for a Muslim man who is strong in his faith, she may or may not consider a beard important. She would want him to fully live his Islam-praying, zakat, pilgrimage, etc. She would seek a man who could support her and her children and keep them secure. She would consider his family and their reputation and involvement, his job and where it might take her in the world (away from mom might be an issue for some girls). She would want a man that she found attractive on some level-for women that might be physical, it could be his voice, sense of humor, the way he relates to others. The normal stuff.



No dating, meet with chaperones in a safe place.

Answer 4

When I was looking to get married, I looked for a man who spoke the truth and should knowledge of Islam.



The other thing I was also on the look out for is whether he had a job or not. Also whether he had a degree or not. Ie someone on the same level as me.



finally whether he considered family life important or not. For it is is important because I wanted to see my family regular after marriage.

I hope this helped..



edit holding hands is not allowed and rules had to be honored.

Answer 5

A man who considers himself inherently superior to them. When it comes to gender equality, he confuses the language. There is gender equality in Islam. In Islam, women are men's human, social, intellectual, and spiritual equals. Not superior. Not inferior. Equal. Women are equal with men, not the same as or identical with them. Just because men do not become pregnant, give birth, and go through the "time of the month" doesn't make them inherently superior to women. Biological differences has nothing to do with who's superior to whom. Besides, if women didn't go through the "time of the month", there would be no men (and women). It's all a continuous, repetitive cycle.

Answer 6

someone like tom cruise..lol j/k "i guess":P



i want a perfect guy who respect me and love me, and to find someone like that i should fix myself first...its not fair for me to ask for a good and full options husband:P while im zero options:P



dear, future husband...i want you to read this poem before we get married..thnx:P



Woman was made from the rib of man,

She was not created from his head to top him,

Nor from his feet to be stepped upon,

She was made from his side to be close to him,

From beneath his arm to be protected by him,

Near his heart to be loved by him.

What do you see when you look at me?

Do you see someone limited , or someone free?

All some people can do is just look and stare,

Simply because they can't see my hair.

Others think that I am controlled and uneducated.



They think that I am limited and not liberated,

They are so thankful that they are not me,

Because they would like to remain "free".

Well free isn't exactly the word I would've used,

Describing women who are cheated on and abused.



They think that I do not have opinions or a voice ,

They think that being hooded isn't my choice,

They think that the hood makes me look caged,

That my husband or dad are totally outraged,

All they can do is look at me in fear,

In my eye there is a tear.



Not because I have been stared at or made fun of,

But because people are ignoring the One up above.

On the day of judgement , they will be the fools,

Because they were too ashamed to play by their own rules.



Maybe the guys won't think I am a cutie,

But at least I am filled with more inner beauty.

See I have declined from being a guy's toy,

Because I won't let myself be controlled by a boy,

Real men are able to appreciate my mind,

They aren't busy looking at my behind..



Hooded girls are the ones really helping the Muslim cause,

The role that we play definitely deserves applause.

I will be recognized because I am smart and bright,

Some people are inspired by my sight.



The smart ones are attracted by my tranquilty,

In the back of their minds they wish they were me,

We have the strength to do what we think is right,

Even if it means putting up a life long fight,



You see we are not controlled by a mini skirt and tight shirt,

We are given only respect , and never treated like dirt,

So you see, we are the ones that are free and liberated,

We are not the ones that are sexually terrorized and violated.



We are the ones that are free and pure,

We're free of STD's that have no cure,

So when people ask you how you feel about the hood,

Just sum it up by saying "baby it's all good"

Answer 7

Salam A muslim woman looks for in aman as her husband (1)as good leder in the new family who will build a sakinah (calm),wa waddah (trespect and love each other) and wa rahmah (help each other with merciful and justice) with good education and good occupation In Islam dating just like western guys and girls is not allowed or haram because it will be approaching fornication which is haram Between a muslim man and muslim girl should be a relationship indirectly through arrange marriage (Ta'aruf) so both of them willknow each other before marriage.

Answer 8

Single muslims don't go on 'dates' it's not allowed!



sorry i couldnt reply to your email but what i know is that your parents look for someone for you then you can sit and speak to that person but in the presence of either, father, uncle, nephew, brother etc.

Answer 9

Kind hearted loving the one who respect her and her family forgiving and most important he should be engaged in deen and islam

Answer 10

-One that Treats Her with Respect. And unfortunately, there aren't too many Muslim men- like Those. :(

Answer 11

Trusting

Truthful

PIETY

A beard.. :D

Answer 12

just becarefull she is not a sunni because sunni's are dick and like to mkill the prophets family after he just said respect my family and now mr dick head killed the muslims and now is at hell

Answer 13

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